Set a sympathy gift policy

After a death, friends, family, and the larger community will want to help in any way they can. Historically, this support has been provided in the form of condolence gifts, like flowers or candles.

However, these gifts may not really help the surviving family. Instead, they may need specific items to help support their daily lives while managing the loss. If you have specific requests, feel comfortable asking for them by calling or texting friends and family directly.

Good to Know You can also add them to Autumn's Memorial invitation website. Send the link to friends and family and they'll let you know what they can provide.

Similarly, you may not want any gifts, or would rather that friends and family donate to a charity related to the deceased's cause of death or their personal interests.

This too can be explained on the Memorial website. Add a link to the charity of your choice and friends and family will know where to donate.

Important Some religions or cultures may specify what gifts are acceptable. If the funeral and memorial services will be guided by religious traditions, it's best to check to ensure nothing is inappropriately requested.