Set a sympathy gift policy

After a death, friends, family, and the larger community will want to help in any way they can. Historically, this support has been provided in the form of condolence gifts, like flowers or candles.

However, these gifts may not really help the surviving family. Instead, they may need specific items to help support their daily lives while managing the loss. If you have specific requests, feel comfortable asking for them by calling or texting friends and family directly.

Lightbulb_Icon.svgGood to Know You can also add them to Autumn's Memorial invitation website. Send the link to friends and family and they'll let you know what they can provide.

Similarly, you may not want any gifts, or would rather that friends and family donate to a charity related to the deceased's cause of death or their personal interests.

This too can be explained on the Memorial website. Add a link to the charity of your choice and friends and family will know where to donate.

Exclamation_Icon.svgImportant Some religions or cultures may specify what gifts are acceptable. If the funeral and memorial services will be guided by religious traditions, it's best to check to ensure nothing is inappropriately requested.

Helpful Tips

While there are common requests that can help any surviving family, what's best for you is entirely based upon personal circumstances and your financial situation.

  • Some common requests include, but are not limited to:
  • Financial donations to help pay for the funeral, events, and more
  • Sending meals, snacks or groceries
  • Watching children, the elderly, or pets
  • Providing transportation
  • Cleaning / laundry
  • General errands
  • Charity donations

You can easily share these support requests with guests by creating a free Memorial website from Autumn.

Guides_Icon.svgRead More Learn more about creating a Memorial website in the Create Memorial section of the Guide.

Traditional gifts and customs for different religions

Actions to Take

Read more about various charity organizations available for donations